Paul met Debbie

As a man not being a father, I am of course not qualified to answer this. But I think this subject is bigger than the word “mom”. Guilt is a universal problem that does not only apply to mothers (with or without cf) and their child. So let me point to a broader answer.

As always, the answer is in the question. We need to not look at what we feel…[Read more]

btw How does it work, planning for a virtual event? I am curious about it!

I was diagnosed at the age of 4, it was 1967 (sweattest) and in that time an earlier reliable diagnosis was not possible, the cf gene was not yet known then; however, cf was already known in my family so the chance of me having cf was 25%. I had no real health issues at…[Read more]

Pets have been and still are important in my life. I never thought about risks/benefits (I should, but just didn’t). But in general the hairs and skins of pets might trigger some airway inflammation as a risk. And a benefit of having a dog in the house (besides having a noble creature around that thinks of me as God), is that it triggers my…[Read more]

This is what happens in life. It happened to me several times. Until I got the message. It has nothing to do with cf per se. We have identities and believe them into existence. Than life which is ever changing comes along and frustrates us in persuing this identity. We have an identity crisis.

The common mistake we make is that we think that now…[Read more]

This research of 2019 is no surprise for me. I predict that NLRP3 inhibition will not only help against specific infection with P aeruginosa. It will probably reduce the hyper-reactivity of the immune system in the cf-airways causing the excessive inflammation which lies at the base of every uncontrolable infection in cf, no matter what bacteria…[Read more]

The Philips Innospire Go is my all time nebulizer at the moment, not only for travelling but I do all my treatment with it. It’s a great little thing and it delivers!
Only thing to be careful about it to never boil it in anything but demineralized water, because it can’t stand any deposits that are in normal tab water. (in the Netherlands, our…[Read more]

If there is pain, there are four options. One could (1) accept the pain and make it an integral part of the experience of life, and that will basically end it as a separate thing. The pain would still be there technically, but there would not be any individual entity (ego) to take ownership and say: “Ouch, that’s my pain”. This requires a process…[Read more]

Let me ask the question more fundamentally: who thinks and talks about purpose in the first place? Where does this voice originate? Is it natural to us? Probably not.

Given that we are part of nature like all other life forms, animal or vegetation, we fundamentally are the same. On a being level that is. Now, on that fundamental level the…[Read more]

I can recognize this feeling of “not having done anything (or enough) today”. I learned to get rid of it after I stopped working as a teacher and had the luxury of spending my time freely. That is, after I got rid of the ego-game. The ego loves accomplishments and tries to push us to doing, achieving, trying etc. When the body does not allow for…[Read more]

I hate to work out, so I don’t. I think it’s unnatural, I don’t practise things that I don’t need. I don’t need to be able to row for half an hour, because I don’t live on an
island, so I don’t practise this on a fitness rowing machine. I don’t run for 5 miles, because I never need that. I can walk for five miles if I want, and i have a car when I…[Read more]

Yes I agree with you fully Luisa, kindness and respect are important.
But we should always realize that it becomes much easier to relate to other people if we in the first place know who we really are. Then we can make contact on a different level that is not dependent on formalities like language. To feel (dis)respect(ed) in the end is just a…[Read more]

I think there is too much emphasis on the subject to start with.

Why would anyone want to be identified with a bodily function-disorder like that? Why would you want to be adressed at all in that way? And if you do, why do you care about the specific terms used in that process?
If you really care about being referred to as cf-er, cf patient,…[Read more]

Well, let’s lift this beyond the cf world. How do you react when someone you know (a fellow human being) dies before you do? Should you be feeling guilty? Why? Is this any different from a fellow cf patiënt dying? Really?

In my opinion, this has nothing to do with cf at all. To parafrase a well known latin proverb: “hodie tibi, cras mihi”. Guilt…[Read more]

LOL, I had to look up the term PFT to find out that it means lungfunction test.

Anyway, I did those in the past until I found out that the only thing they do with it, is file it. I have never seen any medical action (treatment, diagnosis, medication) to result from (only) a PFT. It just shows a gradual decline in longfunction over time, something…[Read more]

I wish they would not (mis) use animals testing and developing medication.

It is all a matter of your own perception. It is good that Elisabeth talks of pity on the one hand, and compassion on the other. They are completely different. You can accept compassion with grace, and you can ignore pity.
But the main thing is to be relaxed about your own situation, then you won’t mind (or even notice) the reaction of others to…[Read more]

Hi Michael,

Keep up the good work and positive attitude!
Don’t look forward to the future too much though, stay in the now and if travelling is what you want, don’t postpone.

About your question: it is not advisible to try and improve the hand you ar dealt, it is not possible and not necessary. There is nothing wrong with it. Just accept what is…[Read more]

Your body does not betray you in de the morning, you have betrayed your body the evening before by pulling a late night. Just accept the boundaries your body sets, it knows better than you. There is no problem in that, so no compensation or strategy is needed other than being aware of your bodily needs.

Well, it would be impossible to exist without attachments. Because that would be an attachment itself (“now I am going to live without attachments” – good luck with that).
So, I would have to answer to your question: it is kinda like living. Just be. Don’t think your life, live it. No conceptualising. Naturally, there will be no specific…[Read more]

Who makes up questions like these? They are not true. Don’t make up identities like this. How to answer such a question?

You can’t come to terms with it, because it doesnot exist.
Everyone has a life-long illness which is called living. It has a bad perspective, uncurable. Your body will die from it some day. But that’s no problem, it’s supposed…[Read more]