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Dating, cystic fibrosis, and when it comes up
Dating and CF:
My therapist and I talk about dating a lot. We also talk about my CF a lot.
I told her that I’m pretty open with my disease. That sometimes I practically say “Hi, I’m Luisa and I have CF.”
Maybe not exactly, but CF comes up pretty quickly. Which, she didn’t quite agree with, so she suggested I wait and let my dates get to know me, and allow me to get to know them.
That I’m not my disease.
She also sent me home with an assignment: to write who I am, good and bad, and only mention CF at the very end.
I understand where she is coming from, I truly do. But, the more I’ve marinated this idea and gone out on dates. I’m recognizing that my disease is and perhaps always will be intrinisically connected to who I am. And, leaving that detail out not only feels unauthentic to me, it also makes it hard to explain my job, my passions, and connections. I see my life through the lenses of having always been sick, my perspective is and always will be influenced by growing up and living with a chronic and terminal illness. I kinda want to live a life where I can embrace that.
1.How do you approach dating?
2. When do you open up about CF — have you experimented with timing? -
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